It strikes me that 'true love', or true romantic love anyway, is often defined by one's actions. 'If he really loved you, he would...', 'She did XXX; that's not true love'. I'm not about to disagree with the standards of what love should be, but I've been thinking about the implicit reasonings behind that line of thought, and it seems to me that it puts undue emphasis on love as a catalyst.
Here's my theory: most people who love, love to the best of their ability. In that case, 'true love' cannot be distinguished through the depth of its sincerity, because it is ultimately the individual's world views and personal values that determines how he or she acts on that love. Simply put, how you love comes down to who you are as a person. Following that vein, people who act like assholes to professed loved ones aren't doing so because they don't truly love them – they're just assholes.
It means that someone loving you won't mean jack shit if you're miserable around them, so there's no point thinking love will change things since they already 'love' you. It also means people who are in love should worry more about what they do with it than what they're feeling.
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