please don't take out your feelings of frustration and helplessness on other women. Saying 'why didn't you say something? you should've screamed! I just needed a reason to beat him up' harshly in response to our talks of discomfort, then proceeding to lecture us on what rape is (i.e. touching without consent) in the same breath, acting for the world like you're on our side (maybe you are, but I don't see it), is a big NO-NO.
you mean well, I'm sure. But when you come at us like that, and make me wonder for a long moment if maybe you're defending him, you fail. Quite epically.